Letting go of ‘All or Nothing’ thinking

The all or nothing mindset enables us as individuals to make sense of our experiences and the world around us. We must be perfect at something, or we’re a failure. We must be sticking to something 100%, or there’s no point to it. Sound familiar? Thinking of things in black and white terms, prevents us from acknowledging the complexities of life and appreciating the grey area in the middle, which I like to think of as the balanced area. Polarised thinking is a negative thought process which in psychological terms is known as a cognitive distortion. These are thought patterns…
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Small ways to help manage your worrying

As mentioned in my last blog post, I’ve recently started studying again and naturally, this combined with a full-time job, has provoked some feelings of worry (and if i’m honest, a little self doubt too). I am however, in a better place now (more than ever), to use some of the things I have learnt through life in order to ease up any feelings of anxiety. I’ve always been a ‘worrier’. As a child I would worry all the time about the safety of my mum and would always keep her within eye sight, unless I was in a familiar…
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Get coached by me (and yes it’s for free!)

Disclaimer: Thank you to everyone who has been in touch regarding Coaching with me. I have been overwhelmed by the interest and feel so grateful for the support. I am now accepting clients through a waiting list so, please get in touch if you would like to work with me in the future!    As a kid, you often get asked the same weighted question over and over; ‘what do you want to do when you grow up?’. I think throughout school I stumbled through a handful of answers, some lasting only a couple of months, others holding their position…
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Staying motivated throughout the year

Finding motivation to get you into the mindset of leading a healthier, more positive lifestyle is one thing, but actually sticking to this and maintaining a happy balance is another. You can start off with the best intentions as you turn over a new leaf but after a while, it can be easy to forget about moving your body or eating with an intuitive, well rounded approach. Studies have shown it usually takes around 12-15 days to lose motivation! That’s a minuscule amount of time compared to a whole year! I’m all for listening to your body and not putting…
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Learning to deal with social expectations

We’ve all been there. Compared our life and the path we’re on as an individual to the next person.   ‘I should have a boyfriend/girlfriend’ ‘I should have moved out by now’ ‘I should have my dream job by now’ ‘I should be working out X amount’ ‘I should be eating better’ ‘I should look a certain way’   But what does this do for our confidence and our overall wellbeing? In this post, I’m going to explore my thoughts on what we can all do to manage these expectations.   Where do these expectations come from? I think there…
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